This is the most controversial thing I can say. But I might as well say that men have sticks or that men have swords, it won’t help much. This offends both Left and Right. The Left is offended because they are always offended, but in particular because they are currently engaged in destroying every aspect of the created order they can, including biological sex. They hate God. In the past they were content to be upset at this statement simply for the biological realities it makes apparent. Men and women are not the same. Half of the Right is offended by this because they are doing their best to hide in the corner and get along with the Left wherever they can. The other half is offended because how dare I be so scatological, they are hiding in the opposite corner behind their crumbling prudish victorian constructs. Their friends in the other corner have no problem with crudity, having caved to the world on this long ago, but for the prudes this is their everything.

The Bayswater Omnibus, George William Joy. c.1895
To hate biological sex, is to hate God’s created order, before the fall, it is to be evil. Today evil men want to recreate everything including themselves in their own image. They want to be God, this is the worst and first sin; pride. They obviously can’t, so they pretend that some cosmetic surgery theater and encapsulated chemicals make them their own creator. God is not impressed. But I don’t hear the prudes mocking them to their face for this insanity, as they should. I don’t hear accurate descriptions of this evil and what it does to children. Only silence and that vaccuum gives a wide birth to evil. You are both wrong.
But let’s take a step back, before things became quite so radical. Before these crazy people were sewing fake phallic devices on confused women, they hated the whole setup. It’s just not fair that sex is what it is. They tried to deconstruct it and reconstruct it and twist it, but the facts are stubborn things. Sex for men and women is not the same. Physiological differences are appropriate, God given and reflective of deeper realities. What men do in sex and what women do is sex is quite different. We can believe in complete egalitarianism when women start raping men. It’s not a thing. Men are in control, they are bigger, stronger, have less at stake with sex. There is also an aspect of violence that you aren’t really supposed to talk about. But there is blood.
The fact is that God gave the power of violence to men, he gave them the sword. And almost everyone hates this that I can see, both the World and the Church. We seem fine with that whole Romans 13 mantra, as if the state can claim whatever it wants and we are rewarded for going along. But when it comes to the household, in our culture, women are to be in control. They either get that control by docile husbands convinced that doing whatever their wife wants is servant leadership, or if the men dare to assert physical force, the suggestion of physical force, or even loud language(speech is violence), women call the cops, the state, and reset the power dynamic.
This can only be described as bent, crooked, perhaps kinky. We are fine assenting to the fact that the sword must be bourn by the state to stop evil, even though it rarely does. Due partly to women voting, making laws, being on juries, having no stomach for such things. This was the first kink. So why doesn’t this Romans 13 ultimatum apply to the other hierarchies? To men as the head of household. It always has. What makes our brave new world different? We are seeing the results all around. Divorce is out of control. Single men and formerly married men are relegated to increasing suicide. Women are tearing families apart like never before(women file for 80% of divorces). They appoint themselves to the priesthood of single mom, and proceeds to sacrifice their children on the feminist alter of crazy. Their children have the rap sheets to prove it. Not to mention the social and developmental damage, that follows for generations. You thought an abusive father was bad, welcome to the next generation hell, no father.
“Of all single mothers in America, only 6.5 percent of them are widows, 37.8 percent are divorced, and 41.3 percent gave birth out of wedlock. The 6.5 percent of single mothers whose husbands have died shouldn’t be called ‘single mothers’ at all. We already have a word for them: ‘widows.’ Their children do just fine compared with the children of married parents.” -Ann Coulter
If we wanted to be more responsible, we might say that the state and the heads of households have limits. But if God gave governments the power to punish evil, he gave it to husbands for a reason too. Husbands can be abusive, but so can the men of the state, which is just made up of fallible men. With the added fact that forcing judges and police to interfere in the family adds all sorts of other problems. We know that Jesus didn’t meet violence with violence. He didn’t even defend himself. And he was rewarded for his humility, and is now seated at the right hand of the father. No one wants to hear it, but we are repeatedly told that suffering when we have done no wrong, is to store up treasure in heaven(James 1). Every moment a wife endures unjust abuse, she is accumulating glory and her husband is storing up wrath. Not only eternally but often on this earth as well. It will probably pass and is probably better for the kids to stay with your husband.
But it also goes the other way. If speech is violence, why isn’t female speech ever violence? The feminist just hates the male, so anything he does is wrong and trying to make comparisons to violence is just a ploy, when you don’t have anything real. There are actually a lot of verses about the female tongue as a source of deception, nagging, or nonsense. (Prov 2:16, 6:24, 7:5-23, 22:14, 23:27; Prov 21:9, 25:24; I Tim. 4:7) How apt the Biblical comparison of an evil woman with a pit, ditch or well. Men have penises women have—pits. But we already knew that. And we also knew that women can exert evil with their persons, just as a man can. And if unchecked, even the best of us can become the worst.
What does the Bible actually say about violence towards your wife? Internet searches are a total joke. People just spouting their feelings and cultural cliche’s onto the text. The Bible doesn’t really say anything. But there are a lot of comparisons. We think slavery is the worst thing ever, even though we have all sorts of it going on around us. The thing about a slave is that he is yours. People don’t abuse their things, unless they are idiots, like Nabal(I Samuel 25). Same with your wife, even if you view her as only a possession, which no one ever did outside of Paganism, you don’t abuse your possessions. The two become one flesh, and you might as well strike yourself. So of course you love your wife as your own body. But that doesn’t mean you don’t sometimes cause pain setting a bone, or opening your wife’s womb. In the Bible there is a time for violence, the threat of violence and violent words(Ecc. 3:1). The basic requirements on how to treat your wife are found in Exodus 21:10. A husband owes his wife food clothing and marital rights(his penis). If you strike another man’s wife, and cause damage, you must pay back her husband, eye for an eye. But there is no rule about your own wife because you have only harmed yourself. If you strike your slave and he survives, with no harm, you have hurt no one but yourself (Exodus 21:21).
We could make other comparisons with verses about children. A father is not supposed to exasperate his children, yet he is to discipline them. Do not spare the rod. It is very clear that there is a big difference between lashing out at your child or anyone in retaliation or anger, for yourself, and the act of discipline which is meant to correct. I don’t see why this wouldn’t apply to wives as well. It seems to me that in the past people understood this and a slap to stop hysterics was appropriate. Or grabbing her to prevent her running away, was to be expected. You might agree more than you think. We have no problem with the wife using violence to get her husband to do what she wants, even if she acts in wrath. And often these days his mere presence, without any violence on his part, is met with violence on her part. She can call the men with guns and have him hauled away. And we are fine with it. But we have inverted God’s order. And what are the results of our wonderful system? As I said before divorce, and out of control women, destroying their children. Have these women forgotten their secret weapon? Peter(another name for penis) says winning them without a word (I Peter 3:1). But that requires self control, the very thing our culture does not teach. And what about that respect thing? Women have their methods for expressing disappointment in their husbands, they certainly don’t need violence, and to try to usurp or employ the methods of the man is a perversion. But we are so used to them, we don’t even notice.